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I felt like I’d leapt off a cliff… It was painful and scary and uncomfortable, which sounds like I’m saying don’t do it… I started to gleefully leap off, as I realised it wasn’t an abyss.
Your body is political. You don’t feel bad about it because there’s something wrong with you. It’s in the interests of those with power for you to feel bad about it.
Why is it so important to feel like we’re doing what’s truly in line with ourselves? The beauty of fully using our strengths is that doing so is actually the path of least resistance to reach our greatest potential.
The ‘selfish gene’ simply doesn’t stand up to the facts of biology. Research has repeatedly revealed that our instinct is to choose another’s wellbeing over our own interests.
The gain=sacrifice mentality is a punishing race through life that doesn’t stop to appreciate the intrinsic magic and beauty of life itself. We’re not here that long; it’s a shame to waste it.
“What I really believe in is the power of thinking. As soon as we qualify the word thinking with the adjective positive, we exclude those parts of reality that strike us as ’negative’” – Dr Gabor Mate.
It’s the voice of doubt and fear, determined to keep you down. It’s also every external voice that ever said, or implied, you are inadequate and you need to be better than you are, all now internalised in you.
The nature of attachment was once understood as being purely utilitarian. A hundred years ago, parents were even urged not to pick up their young children in order to encourage independence.
We spend so much of our lives doing what we think we should do. Realising that deep-seated beliefs keep us slogging away was a revelation for me.